Wednesday, 26 September 2012

happiness

Photo by Carolene
Happiness has always been a never ending issue. In the recent positivism era, many people believe that happines is meant to be chosen instead of achieved, yet again, even international law constitutes the right for all people to pursue happiness. To my point of view, there are slight differences between happiness, excitement, security, and peacefulness.

Photo by Sam Hood

Excitement is an overwhelming feeling which comes out only in particular situations diverse in personalities yet be common in the environment. A situation when your dream touches the realm of reality. When you do things voluntarily which such things are in accordance with your passion. When you get what you have expected or when you unexpectedly get what you would like to have. When you receive hope. When you fall in love. The situation usually can be indicated when there is something (people think it’s a butterfly) growling in your stomach or when something is heating in your chest (from that imaginary organ called ‘heart’). I’m not quiet sure whether there has been a scientific research regarding those symptoms.  Yet anyhow, this excitement feeling lasts not long and is easily disrupted. It usually ends even before its cause does.

To get what you need instead of what you want is the main difference between excitement and security. Security lasts longer than excitement and it is a major synonym of these feelings: safe, comfortable, warm, and unchallenged. For what I have learnt, insomnia is mainly caused by the insecurity.

Photo by Alfredo11

Peacefulness is a spiritual phase. Peacefulness is usually granted post reveries, meditations, prayers, and the ability to be grateful or to surrender. Peacefulness thus is very well related to religious  acts. However, it doesn’t mean an atheist cannot get a peaceful spirit. In a lot of cases, love is a religion. Peacefulness is really hard to describe as it can only be personally felt, not shared. However, many seem to have pictured it as being floating on still water and there is nothing else in the world but the empty sky above. Because of that, peacefulness is very very close to hollowness.

Photo by Sosij
     
Happiness. It’s....

I don’t know. When I feel excited, I’m happy. When I feel secure, I’m happy. When I can maintain peacefulness inside, I’m happy. Sometimes I can’t tell which feeling I’m experiencing. Often I don’t feel excited but I’m happy. I feel insecure and challenged but I’m happy. I feel troubled but I can manage to be happy.

Meanwhile, whereas I feel sad, I’m not happy. Whereas I’m happy, I’m not sad.

Photo by Gianluca Di Santo

If we can’t measure what happiness is related to,  let’s just simply say that as long as we’re not sad, we’re happy. Personally, I’d rather focus in accepting the negative situation I’m having instead of struggling to run away from it and finding someone or something to blame. You can only rise from your negative situation when you have managed to accept it and have fully gained control over it.
The secret of being happy is not trying to be happy, but trying to be not sad instead.

Disclaimer: I do not own the photos, you can find the photos in this site. I do not own the truth of happiness and so on, God does.

28 comments:

  1. I find my greatest happiness occurs when I reach out to share joy...

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  2. Beautifully written as usual, Jo. So jealous with your master art of putting words together!
    To me, peacefulness is the whole package. When you are happy, when you are loved, when you love, and when you feel secure, that is peace to me. And I can only achieve all that through God who gives me "the guarantee" that He will never forsaken His child and that His promise is a promise of prosperity and peacefulness in your future :)

    <3
    http://escapesweetest.blogspot.com

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  3. hey you, thank you for the comment on my blog, certainly made my day =)
    you have a potential in writing! what do you do for a living?

    xoxo
    christineadelina.blogspot.com

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    1. I'm a law student, dear. It'd be lovely tho if I could write for a living someday (:

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    2. oh wow law student... hahahaha gotta be hard... but this post made some really positive aspects in life, some people tend to focus too much on the other way around instead of happiness... so happy that you are directing to the good sides.. catch u later... lookin fwd to the next post

      xoxo
      christineadelina.blogspot.com

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  4. I think happiness is a mixture of all these things really. But everyone has a different view of what happiness is, and what makes them happy. A lot of people also want what isn't best for them.

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  5. Indeedly true :) and I'm one of the population who believe happiness comes from your thinking \:D/ great writing!

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  6. I find happiness in the diamonds guarding my art, I find this post as one of your best, it's simply breathtaking, like I can breakdown and be happy in the same time, life has been tough for me, but happiness does come along. "The secret of being happy is not trying to be happy, but trying to be not sad instead." you know there was once a saying that you are as happy as you wish to be, that is how I constantly play with my mindset. Well done, jo.

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  7. Happiness is abstract and everyone can describe it differently. As for me, happiness is something that beautiful, and good. Something that will make my heart races, my pupils dilate, adrenalin rushes, or even butterflies in my stomach :D
    Lovely writing, as always ~


    aka,
    adrkrist.blogspot.com

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  8. i like how your described about happiness. it's so true.. I like this post.. very positive.. :)
    Irene Wibowo

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  9. Very positivo feeling, each single person will describe happiness by a differente way, but I like your attitude about it!

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  10. gileeeeee abang chrisjo hebat bener yak ngerangkai kata. kayak kamu yg ngerangkai serpihan hatiku menjadi satu :* hahaha!

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    1. HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA semoga jarum jahitnya ga ketinggalan di hatimu yak

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  11. Happiness is all of th4ese things: excitement, security, peacefulness, gratitude and surrender. Great read. Thank you.

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  12. For me, happiness is only about perspective :)

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  13. Happiness is chosen, i like this very much.
    Thank you for sharing, i need this today...

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  14. I want too much out of life, so there is a good chance I will never be happy. But at the same time, I am not very difficult to please. Perhaps, if I aim really low, I will hit my mark and be happy.

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  15. I remember a quote from a book I read. It says. "Happiness comes to people like and we try to hold on to it but we can't." .. because of that, I thought that probably it's best that my happiness is based on some greater things. That way, it’ll also take some great things to take it away from me. But then I realized that it's too punishing for me as it'll ultimately make it hard for me to achieve happiness. That's why in the end, I prefer peacefulness. And yes, it may be spiritual, but contrary to what you said, I don't find it anywhere close to hollowness at all.

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  16. for me, happiness is a way, not an end :)

    nice post!
    http://mytigermx.blogspot.mx

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  17. Thanks for your lovely comment! Firts photo is delicious!

    xoxo vintangell.blogspot.com

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  18. "The secret of being happy is not trying to be happy, but trying to be not sad instead." <333 such an inspiring post :")

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  19. you words are soooo inspring josh :)
    seriously
    how i love your written!
    youre talented!

    claireteressa.blogspot.com

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  20. This is so good!!
    Best Regards
    Miss Margaret Cruzemark
    http://margaretcruzemark.blogspot.com/

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  21. The Rainbow background photos amazing ! Check my new post ! (:

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  22. haha, it's brilliant that you put food picture on the top of this post. it's one of my daily happiness source. lol. happiness is wide for me, when I surrounded by lovely people,I'm happy. when I get present, I'm happy. even when I write this comment,I'm in a good mood and I'm happy. btw, the last quote is so true..

    I reply your previous comment about the project. I think I give up the last project, it's clueless. But I'm working on another blog project now. I hope it more visible and can be realized.

    xoxo
    kelimutu

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  23. Oh I wanted to say "that picture is so french" then I read all and wow, really, thay you for open your mind and heart and sharing with your readers, I identify with all. I think you're right, in the bad situations is always good to stop and thinking about it, but above all assume the situation.

    Kisses from Mexico
    -Anna
    annasmirror.blogspot.com

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