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I was so honoured when I received an invitation from Junebug's Aleena Deandra to be the second writer of a chained-essay about Bullying. It's been weeks but don't worry dear, I'm not that irresponsible. In the chained-post, I shall continue what Aleena wrote about our juvenile yet thoughtful opinions regarding Bullying.
Hence, the first and two paragraphs below are Aleena's and the rest is what I'm writing.
I've heard a lot of stories about bullying; about how it affects most people, especially teenagers. I've once dealing with a friend who got bullied. The reason the bullies (most of them are girls) use to bully her is simple : she's fat. Those bullies once asked her, "Are you pregnant?! What's with that globe-sized belly of yours??!" and then they laughed at her, then a boy -another bullies told her in front of those bullies, "But then, who wants to fuck you anyway, fatty bitch!" Just imagine how hurtful the boy's words are. She then cried and asked my advice, telling me that she was so close to drop out from school, as she couldn't take any more words from the bullies. Hearing that, my heart scattered. How could they do such horrible things to her? Let me tell you, she isn't fat. She's only size-14, for God's sake. Marilyn Monroe -the one they called the sexiest woman alive was size-14, so what the hell is wrong with her that got the bullies' attention?! I know it, they are jealous of her. Jealous of her beauty, of her big-rounded black eyes, of her pointed nose, of her reddish full lips, of her long thick shiny black hair, of her bombshell figure. That's what it is. I told her the same, that she didn't deserve any of that, that she shouldn't take their words seriously, but just go living her life, and gladly, she did take my advice seriously, as she stood up against those bullies and started to get better. She's now on her diet; she has lost around 20 lbs and can't be more proud of her body. She's now on her way to catch her study and her dream in China. And guess what, she has a boyfriend now, a boyfriend who loves and accepts her unconditionally. And what happened to those bullies? Let me tell you, they are nothing. They may still have that pretty face, but -no offense- they're just another college students in town, living under their parents' supports. And my friend; she takes a part-time job in some restaurant there at Taiwan to feed herself and support her life there. And for the study's fee? She got a hell of scholarship, FULL SCHOLARSHIP FOR HER ENTIRE BACHELOR YEARS! How amazing is that? See, she's one hell of inspiration. She's tough, she's not a quitter, she's willing to stand up, she's determined to change, to be better, and look how she's now, better than ever.
I, myself, ever got bullied because of my weight. I was fat (twice) and my friends often mocked me, calling me an elephant, a hulk, you name it. And lucky for me, I was born and raised not to give any fuck of what people say about me, and I believe in myself. But I couldn't thank them enough to mock me, because their words motivated me to be who I am right now. And one thing I can say about them, bullies; you are much worse than those who you bullied, not to mention your envious towards them, covering all of your hatred of yourself in your disgusting demeanor of wrecking other people's life. Mind your own business, because we're lot strongers than you think we are! And let me tell you one thing: one can be better, but not against those who they have no comparison with. And that's us, bullies!
If we take a closure look at it, bullying is never committed by minority against majority. Most (if not all) of the times, we never choose to be bullies. We are dragged by the dominant society to bully the outnumbered ones. Now we may conclude that bullies are so cruel and hateful. Can we however say the same when we are in the place of the majority and when they require us to show our dominance to the minority? It will be wondrously miraculous if we can utterly be heroes and literally stop bullying. Yet on the other hand, the gap will always be there with or without our involvements.
Perhaps we will never be able to stop bullying. Perhaps it will always be there as long as there is a number of special persons who are brave enough to stand out the crowd. Perhaps you and I are bullied. Perhaps you and I are bullies in a few occasions. Toughen your heart. Face bullying. Forgive bullies. More importantly, forgive yourself for being what you are. Let the bullies spread hatred, we don't necessarily need to hate them back and help them spreading hatred.
Why hate? There's enough hatred in the world without our help.
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